When I weighed 398 lbs. strangers and casual acquaintances would occasionally offer unsolicited advice on weight loss. I would simply say, thank you, and quietly withdraw from their company. They did not know me well. They did not know why I was overweight. They did not know how many ways I had tried to lose weight or how I had yo yo dieted from 276 lbs. to 398 lbs. over the previous 30 years. They simply had not earned the right, through relationship, to speak into my life.
Only when we have taken the time to get to know someone over an extended period of time do we earn the right to speak, uninvited, into their lives. We must wallow through the shallow in order to get to the deep. We must make small talk in order to get to the bigger issues. We may not get to influence, or more likely control, as many people; but those whom we do influence may be more appreciative.
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Amen Mike. It amazes me how people who do not even know you think they are allowed to throw in comments about personal issues. I guess the sad thing though is that it shouldn't amaze me anymore since it happens so frequently. I hope you are enjoying your vacation!
Mike, I think weight loss and politics are the two subjects never to be brought up. I am very lucky; I have never been "over weight". But, I can understand and empathize with people who do struggle. I will never be able to say, "I know how you feel." But, as a friend to people who struggle, I try to not always indulge in dessert and encourage exercise (not push, but offer for them to come to the gym with me or go for a walk). I am also aware it will always be a struggle, even for those who have lost a lot of weight. It is a life style change. Keep up the good work, Mike. Many people are inspired by your accomplishments (including me!). Laura
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